“Relationships of trust depend on our willingness to look not only to our own interests, but also the interests of others.” ~ Peter Farquharson
let me add a little to this...
Relationships of trust also depend on the ability to look at someone and tell them they are right or wrong, no matter what you think they may say. Relationships of trust are also have some give and take, But when you take away the trust yourself you have taken too much. Regardless of how much you have given over the years. No matter what... NEVER put yourself in a position to not be trusted. Regardless of how close you are with your friends. When someone gives up their faith in you because of what you have done that is when you are the one that has taken too much. When you avoid the truth to spare someones feelings... that is when you have taken too much. You feel like you gave more than you should... That's when you have truly become a friend. You your thoughts and payers are daily about that person. That is when you give truly to a friendship. When you can look at a person and say and tell the truth even though you know it will hurt their feelings... that is when you have become a true friend and you have succeeded at a healthy relationship.
oh and one more thing...
You will never have a healthy relationship with anyone as long as the basis of your friendship is built out of dishonesty. People will never truly trust you if they have the notion that you may have not been completely honest to begin with. Food for thought... ;)
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